The Capacity To Change & The People That Don’t.

Change is the hardest and easiest thing to do as you get older.

The one mantra that I try to abide by is something my mother told me when I was about 10 or 11:

“Some people grow older not up.”

In this era of exposure culture, quick memes and retweets, it is easy to extract people from your life. But, in reality, this practice is not so easy. In practice, when you decide to change your life you hope that there would be, could be someone in your life that would be a stable force.  Someone that could be an anchor or some source of support. Something that is same in the face of all that is changing.

The one thing that we fail to realize no everyone wants to change. Or as you change, there aren’t a lot of people willing to change with you. Or liking that fact that you are wanting to change. Some people can only handle you on the capacity that they are able to handle you on. The strange thing about this life is in times of stress, change and transition the true character and motives of people are revealed. If you don’t know where you stand with people, or know where you stand with people in your life, start changing it.

Start doing things ‘people don’t like.’ Start making demonstrative, sustainable change. You will have choir and chorus of the Concerned Committee of Your Personal Welfare will demand that you stop doing whatever it is you’re doing. Why? You’re upsetting the balance of nature, don’t you  know that?

You cannot live your life as if it is dependent on the thoughts of other people. You cannot allow your mindset to be dependent on what other people want. Academy Award nominated actress Taraji P. Henson says it this way: 

You cannot live your life as if it is dependent on the thoughts of other people. You cannot allow your mindset to be dependent on what other people want. Academy Award nominated actress Taraji P. Henson says it this way: 

“If you live your life for other people, you won’t live.” 

Sometimes the simplest truth is the one most straight forward. You cannot live your life for other people. You cannot live your life for other people. You cannot force the vision of your life into and for the eyes of other people. My pastor, Dr. Tonya Stewart gave me this gem earlier this year:

“You cannot give an opinion where you hold no responsibility!”

You cannot let an opinion, that is not your own, change or shift your responsibility. Go forth. Do you. Be great. If people can’t handle you, they will eventually have to catch up to you.

[Images from schoolscompared.com,  taraburner.com]

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