What I think is missing in this conversation around inclusion, equality and equity is the ‘A’ word: ACCESS. None of these things can be given, granted to acknowledged without access! … Continue reading #BlackBlogsMatter Challenge-Week 6 (2021)
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My good girlfriend, Kelly, is a working single Mom who has landed this bomb job at a law firm. She is slated to graduate this summer with a stellar GPA. As she is an executive paralegal, she is familiar with the demands of a law firm, precise nature of the work required and she is getting invaluable training which will only make her a better paralegal. And she can play Wu-Tang Clan at work! Kelly’s job is awesome!
However, there was bitter broad in her class cohort. Let’s call her *Regular Rachel. Somehow, Regular Rachel found out about Kelly’s job, and went to the head of the program to complain that Kelly had an unfair advantage.
Yes. That happened.
This advantage is the similar to a nursing student employed as a CNA through nursing school. You literally are employing skills which will make you a better nurse. Chile, please.
The epilogue to this is my girl emailed her program head, and let them know in 2018 this is still happening, and how silly it is, and how Regular Rachel needs to find some business. Regular Rachel responded to the situation as all Regular Rachel’s do:
“I am not a racist, and I just want to put this whole situation behind me and move forward…”
Ta-Nahsi Coates said the white people in this country are taught that everything belongs to them. I would have to agree. White privilege can only permit as long as there are systems in place to keep it untouched and unchallenged. White privilege is fragile AF because it is dependent on reinforcement, oppression and the game staying rigged.
Kelly couldn’t have an advantage that outdid her own advantage because that would mean she wouldn’t win. White privilege is steeped in the idea of winning, indoctrination of inherent minority loss, which allows a learned helplessness to become a ceiling to all those who would dare challenge it: you can go no further than what we believe you should. If you happen to assert yourself, and use the same tricks we use to get over, WEE WHEEL NAWT HAAV EET!
White supremacy needs to take L’s on two occasions: continuously and often.
“If the only way you can be tall is if someone is on their knees, then you have a serious problem.”
-Toni Morrison (a revered Mother Oracle)
White privilege is fragile because it cannot stand alone, or apart from an oppressive system of operation. It remains fragile because it has to be retaught, reinforced and oppressive all those who challenge it. This social construct, much like race, is to assert the belief where to not be white is to be less than.
So, how do we combat it? We combat it just as my girl Kelly did! You call it out, you confront it and you don’t let Regular Rachels, Bitter Beckys and Tryingit Tanyas ruin what you want to do, the hustle you have, and the ambition you power.
The moral of the story: Keep it pushin. If they can’t stand you, tell Regular Rachel to get a seat and saddown.
*-Regular Rachels are pervasive!
They are the Beckys with chips on their shoulder and just enough sense of self to believe their own bullshit. Regular Rachel’s are built to fight, but they call managers if the melaninated girl behind the counter is to ‘brash’. They email professors if they find out someone has an ‘unfair’ advantage. Regular Rachel’s are the goons of white supremacy. Beckys are the molls. Allies don’t allow their circles to have Regular Rachels in their midst and not allow them to roam unchecked. Firestarters, check your circles. None of us have time for the ridiculousness Regular Rachels bring.
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Let us consider buying a house. You want the house to be just right, even dreamed it may be. However, in the buying of the house there are these three stipulations:
Where is it?
Inclusion let’s you know there is something else yet beyond your grasp. There is something else to be sought after, worked for and to aspire. In short order, inclusion opens the door for consideration and opportunities. Without inclusion, there cannot be room for progress, mobility or consideration for future endeavors.
Can you have it?
Let’s say you have found your house. You have your money saved, realtor picked out, and even have the new carpet picked out. The realtor you chose tells you that you cannot have it, even though you have all the criteria met, just like everyone else. What gives?
Equality says and demonstrates by virtue of my existence, I am just as a good as anyone else can be. I am worthy of all good things, I am entitled to all things worked for. Despite race or economic status, I can have what I desire of this life because I am worthy to have them.
If you know where it is, know you can have it, and will it be fair?
You protest with your realtor and tell them you have all the qualifications necessary to buy the house you picked out. You have saved and borrowed and waited. You want this house!
The realtor in turn tells you he has a house in the same area, but it’s not exactly what you wanted.
Equity is to make something accessible, and almost/just like something else. Equity makes it fair, grants you a skeleton key–yet not every lock you open will be what you want.
That’s the catch, Firestarters!
What is inclusive, may not be equitable (prime example: education). What is supposed to be a source of equality may not be inclusive (prime example: voting.). There are gray areas about these topics, and as long as you live you will intersect.
In that intersection, you still are granted access. That’s the promise and premise of this nation: access–which, too, is not equitable, inclusive or boast of equality.
Yet…go buy your house.
Black Blogs still matter.
They matter because the voice of black people matter. Blogging allows us to express ourselves in the a way that mainstream media and social media does not allow. There is a freedom language offers bloggers, especially black bloggers, that cannot be mimicked to or by other people. Blogging takes the oral tradition, and allows it to stretch to examine what else can be done. Blogs run by black bloggers offer a view to the life experiences of black people. Black writers offer something unique most blogs run by non-persons of color do not offer.
We offer earnest emotion, unique perspectives and fresh looks on things society often don’t pay attention to. We shine light on issues that pertain to us as a culture and community allow us to network and understand we aren’t alone. There is a power in putting culture and talent out for consumption for those that look like you. It allows room to groove, flow, and be genuine.
Being genuine is something writers are told to be in order to convey imagination and ideals. Blogging forces the black bloggers to do both. Black bloggers matter because we create space, we network and create community. These things are important!
Black blogs matter because our lives matter, baby. What happens to us matter. We *does these words, and we get these sites and we make room, elbowing if necessary, to make this space, preserve this space, where we can say, “This here is mine and you can’t tell me how to run it.” Blogs allow us to not see our own voices as merely echoes.
We don’t take up space, we occupy space. We recognize our voices, use this vehicle of the internet or domains to occupy this space that black people are known to do: we turn out, whatever we use!
Black blogs still matter because black lives matter. Our experiences, talents, dreams, desires all matter. Black blogs allow windows to be opened into the rich talents of black people. It matters, these blogs matter, because we matter.
*-This phrase was coined by me in regards to writing. It means someone that allows the full use of words and potential of language. Indeed, “I does these words.”